Showing posts with label Grief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Grief. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 17, 2026

2 Samuel 18:19-33 - David Laments Absalom's Death

2 Samuel 18:19-33
And the king was deeply moved and went up to the chamber over the gate and wept. And thus he said as he walked, "O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! Would I had died instead of you, O Absalom, my son, my son!" (verse 33)


Time: Second Samuel is set in the land of Israel during the reign of David and follows the course of his forty years as king of Israel (1011–971 BC). It chronicles the establishment of the Davidic dynasty and the expansion of Israel under God’s chosen leader. 

What the Lord is Saying: Ahimaaz is eager to deliver news to David of the outcome of the battle with Absalom. “That the lord has avenged him” - God has been victorious. God is actively involved in the affairs of his people. But Joab understands that delivering this news to David will be painful for David. Absalom is his son and his desire was for his son not to die even though Joab was the cause of it. Delivering messages is key in these days and needs to be done appropriately. Instead Joab chooses a Cushite to deliver the news - an Ethiopian. The Cushite was likely an eyewitness of the events. But Ahimaaz persisted as he wanted to be involved. He suggested running behind the Cushite. But Joab questions why. There will be no gain in delivering this news. Joab gives him permission and Ahimaaz outruns the Cushite. 

David was waiting at the gates and saw a man running alone. The news coming would be good and bad or mixed. But David was optimistic. Then another man is seen running and again the hope is for good news. Ahimaaz called out to David, "All is well." He bowed before the king. "Blessed be the Lord your God" and he attributes it all to God. He gives glory to God for the victory. 

David asks about Absalom, wanting to know he is all right. Ahimaaz responds by wanting to avoid the bad news. But he could also be deferring the report of the full news to someone else like Joab. David tells Ahimaaz to step aside. The Cushite shows up and confirms the good news of being freed from the rebellion. Once again David wants to know if Absalom is all right. The Cushite is also vague is his response stating only Absalom's outcome is fitting to one that has been subdued. 

David knew that Absalom had died and he wept greatly and lamented over the loss of his son. He has lost also any opportunity for reconciliation. It is a sad day. David perhaps didn't really understand or want to believe the insurrection his son was wanting and his rebellion. 

Summary: The battle has ended and Ahimaaz, a priest and a Cushite want to deliver the results to David and yet our vague in announcing the demise of Absalom, but David figures it out and laments. 

Promise: From Tabletalk, "we cannot let our relationships cloud our judgment when we see people rebelling against lawful authorities."

Prayer: God, you are merciful and outcomes are hard to hear in life. Rebellion is hard to hear. It is hard to be a part of division and opposing forces. We want everyone to get a long and everyone to have a same goal and same desire for peace and love. We want the best in our children and want them to be aligned with us. But sometimes things don't work out the way we would like. Help us to uphold good and lawful ways. We must honor the law. I remember this with our youngest son and making sure he was law abiding and not just thinking that he was when he rebelled and began to smoke. Lord, let goodness reign in our household and may you be glorified always. 


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Thursday, February 12, 2026

2 Samuel 1:17-27 - Lament for Saul and Jonathan

2 Samuel 1:17-27
Your beauty, O Israel, is slain on your high places! How have the mighty fallen! (verse 19)


Time: Second Samuel is set in the land of Israel during the reign of David and follows the course of his forty years as king of Israel (1011–971 BC). It chronicles the establishment of the Davidic dynasty and the expansion of Israel under God’s chosen leader. 

What the Lord is Saying: I've been thinking more about these Laments and our need to continue to go to the Lord with our problems and our struggles and especially when those struggles over a period of time are not working out the way we would like. I think of my dad's salvation, my youngest son's. I think of people in Africa and 3rd world countries that are continually struggling to have their basic needs met, working hard, and getting by on feeble means while so many other parts of the world live in comfort with heat, running water, and indoor plumbing. I think of our country and world that seems to be replacing God with personal choice - exchanging the truth for a lie. The division that is in our country at large. 

In 2 Samuel 1, after David learns of the death of Saul and his sons, specifically Jonathan he brings forth a lament or funeral dirge or elegy that will be publicly spoken at events. David and his men have already mourned, wept, and fasted (1 Samuel 1:12). David mentions here that a song of lament will be added to the Book of Jashar. This book is also mentioned in Joshua 10:13 and though never discovered seems to be a collection of a series of songs related to the men of Israel. 

verse 19 - Your beauty, O Israel, is slain on your high places! How have the mighty fallen! - Saul and Jonathan are the beauty of Israel, the mighty that have fallen on the high Mount of Gilboa. 
verse 20 - Tell not in Gath, proclaim it not in the streets of Ashkelon; lest the daughters of the Philistine rejoice, lest the daughters of the uncircumcised exult. - Gath and Ashkelon were chief cities of the Philistines and the expression of the daughters is it is customary for women to celebrate national deliverances and victories. The uncircumcised refers to the Philistines and their triumph over Israel. 
verse 21 - O mountains of Gilboa, let not dew or rain be on you, nor fields of offerings; for there the shield of the mighty was defiled, the shield of Saul, not anointed with oil. Joseph Benson comments that the expression of the height of the mountain is the height of our mourning and no dew and nor rain and no fertile fields is "a passionate expression of the sorrow and horror which he felt at this public disgrace and loss, which were such as if he thought every person or thing which contributed to it ought to bear tokens of the divine displeasure, such as the earth does when it is deprived of the influence of dew and rain." The shield was to be the protection of Saul and it was defiled and cast away. These are stark words because Saul was to David both his enemy and his prince. 
verse 22 - From the blood of the slain, from the fat of the mighty, the bow of Jonathan did not turn back, and the sword of Saul did not return empty. Saul and Jonathan had both been on the battle field -- victorious warriors who returned from battle often with the blood of the slain on them. This verse speaks of the greatness of Saul and David upon their foes. 
verse 23 - Saul and Jonathan, beloved and pleasant in their life, and in their death they were not parted; they were swifter than eagles, they were stronger than lions. Saul, but most notably Jonathan were pleasant (loved) in their life. As is done in any funeral service we commend the dead for the noble achievements and good works in their lives, for everyone does some amount of good. Father and son also share in a strong union. Like an eagle, they were swift, expeditious and nimble in pursuing their enemies and like a lion, strong. Again, we are meant at funeral to speak well of the dead. 
verse 24 - O daughters of Israel, weep over Saul, who clothed you luxuriously in scarlet, who put ornaments of gold on your apparel. - Clothed in scarlet means the victories that Saul experienced in his battles and time, though he goes out defeated. The daughters which celebrated his triumphs, shared the spoil of his victories, now lament his loss. Men fight and women are the first to reap the benefit. They show up and adorn themselves in bright colors and golden ornaments of jewelry. They present themselves in all of their beauty. 
verse 25 - How have the mighty fallen in the midst of the battle! Jonathan is slain on your high places. - This lament began with the mighty and ends now with words of the battle, with David expression this in his friend Jonathan. In this lament, David does not for a moment speak of the grief he experienced continually from Saul who often wanted him dead. He passes over all of that, not only for himself, but also on the account of Jonathan. Whether Jonathan wanted to be there with his father Saul, he was there. He was present with him. He supported his father even if it was hard. The mighty have fallen is the epic of odes offered. 
verse 26 - I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan, you have been very pleasant to me, your love to me was more wonderful than the love of women. - There is a love between these two friends that transcends the love of women. Before everyone, David expresses his personal sorrow. In the Pulpit commentary, it states, "Never was there a purer friendship than that of Jonathan for David. It began just after the combat with Goliath, when the young prince, instead of seeing in David a rival, who had equaled his own feat of valor, took him to his heart, put upon him his own robe and armor, and thus presented him to the army as his friend and brother. Nor did his father's hatred of David, nor the knowledge that David was to inherit the kingdom, interfere with his love. He remained a dutiful son to his father, and accepted his inferior position with magnanimity, without once seeing in David cause for blame; and it surpassed the love of women, because, to requite their devotion, they look for protection and homage, the more delightful because it is paid by the strong to the weak. But here the lives of the two friends could not combine in one happy fusion of mutual union. Their hearts were bound together, but a hard fate, of which they were fully aware, made the ruin of the one the certain result of the happiness of the other. Nevertheless, Jonathan, with everything to lose, and David with everything to gain, remained true and loyal friends."
verse 27 - How have the mighty fallen, and the weapon of war perished. This thrice-repeated refrain sounds the keynote of the elegy. Saul had experienced great victories for the people of Israel and that is now contrasted with the terrible defeat of life. 

As I read this, I think of how it is interesting that we have changed our funeral services and termed them times of celebration or celebration of life and yet we often don't shout out the mourning and the grief that we are experiencing. The person's life yes was great, but me without them is now not great and we are at a loss. 

Sorrow is needed at times, but even in these words of sorrow are words of extreme thankfulness and the union that was present when these lives were on the earth. Let us continue to celebrate life. David was the rightful successor to Saul, but David was not out to get Saul. Despite Saul being threatened by him, David still had a love and respect for Saul. And he has in these verses heart-wrenching words of sadness for Saul's demise. But more so for his son Jonathan. We look forward to death no more. We are fine to want to escape it, though we cannot. We are fine to mourn it when it occurs in another, though again every person's outcome is certain. As Matthew Henry comments, “the more we love the more we grieve.”

Summary: David now brings a lament of sorrow, grief, but also celebration of Saul and even more notably his honored friend Jonathan. David has loved well. 

Promise: We are to support one another in every difficulty. There is a powerful bond of friendship we have with our brothers and sisters in Christ. 

Prayer: Lord, thank you for these words. I took time to go through them and understand them and think about them, for they were heartfelt words spoken by David and recorded in this book of Jashar, thankfully, so that I can read them today. You are good God, so good to remind us of the joy we have of being with others and the special bonds we have with other people. I thank you for the good friends you have given me. I have such a joy and thankfulness for the people that I walk through life with and am honored continually for their special friendship. There is a union with them that is different from the union with my wife and I am extremely grateful. Help me at those times to celebrate people, lament their loss, and not ever focus on their shortcomings. They are there in my life for a reason and help me God to always celebrate this. Be praised always. 


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Saturday, September 14, 2024

John 20:11-15 - Mary Sees Jesus and the Angels

John 20:11-15
11 But Mary was standing outside the tomb weeping; and so, as she wept, she stooped and looked into the tomb; 12 and she saw two angels in white sitting, one at the head and one at the feet, where the body of Jesus had been lying. 13 And they said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping?” She said to them, “Because they have taken away my Lord, and I do not know where they have laid Him.” 14 When she had said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, and did not know that it was Jesus. 15 Jesus said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping? Whom are you seeking?” Supposing Him to be the gardener, she said to Him, “Sir, if you have carried Him away, tell me where you have laid Him, and I will take Him away.”


Time: John most likely wrote between A.D. 85 and 90. John's purpose in writing was, "that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing you may have life in His name (John 20:31)." 

What the Lord is Saying: It is rather interesting this story. I admit I have not studied it before, have read it, but have not stared at or studied this. Mary goes to the tomb and sees that it is empty. Peter and John follow and see the same thing. And now we have the record of Jesus speaking or responding to Mary. Mary shows up at the tomb, despondent, weeping - wondering what has happened to Jesus. She thinks someone has taken him. Before her at the tomb were two angels sitting - one at the head of where Jesus would lie and one at the feet, asking Mary why she was weeping. And then behind her it would seem a voice came as well asking the same - and yet that voice was Jesus. 

Luke 24:4 also reports the presence of two angels at the tomb, while Matthew 28:1–2 and Mark 16:5 tell us that one angel was there. 

The angels came to her in that tomb and probably only her and those angels were meant to be a comfort to her but she did not seem to recognize it for her grief in the moment was larger. Sometimes in our grief and despair we struggle seeing what God is doing in sending us comfort and sending us people to give us comfort. There remained in these people (Mary, other women, John and Peter) a cluelessness or perhaps the truth had not yet been revealed to them. Obviously it is easy for us to see afterwards and to think they should have known better. But I do not want to miss what they were experiencing at the time.  

Summary: Mary goes to the tomb and 2 angels are there to comfort but she does not recognize this or Jesus who asks her a question about her sadness. 

Promise: We are likely to seek and find, when we seek with affection, and seek in tears. 

Prayer: Thank  you God for the work you want to do in our life - to comfort us and send your messengers to speak to us. 


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Thursday, November 17, 2016

Jesus Calling: November 12

This is a time of abundance in your life. Your cup runneth over with blessings. After plodding uphill for many weeks, you are now traipsing through lush meadows drenched in warm sunshine. I want you to enjoy to the full this time of ease and refreshment. I delight in providing it for you.
     Sometimes My children hesitate to receive My good gifts with open hands. Feelings of false guilt creep in, telling them they don't deserve to be so richly blessed. This is nonsense-thinking, because no one deserves anything from Me. My kingdom is not about earning and deserving: it's about believing and receiving.
     When a child of Mine balks at accepting My gifts, I am deeply grieved. When you receive My abundant blessings with a grateful heart, I rejoice. My pleasure is giving and your pleasure is receiving flow together in joyous harmony.

Psalm 23:5
King James Version
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

John 3:16
English Standard Version
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

Luke 11:9-10
English Standard Version
9 And I tell you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.

Romans 8:32
English Standard Version
He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?

My Prayer (2022)
Lord, I admit sometimes struggling with allowing myself to rest in your goodness and providence. It is important though to praise You and also to be reminded of how good you are to me and simply to rest in that. I need it. I get pummeled daily it feels with doing more - solving problems better at work - even the feeling that church is often about how I should be a better version of me to my community and church and to You. Thank you for reminding me of Your great love for me. For wanting to spend eternity with me. For wanting to give me gifts. For giving me abundant life, even now. For creating me, seeing what I do, and yet still wanting me. My cup does run over. 


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Thursday, August 27, 2015

Psalm 6 - A Prayer for Deliverance

Psalm 6 - 1 O Lord, rebuke me not in your anger, nor discipline me in your wrath. Be gracious to me, O Lord, for I am languishing; heal me, O Lord, for my bones are troubled. My soul also is greatly troubled. But you, O Lord—how long? Turn, O Lord, deliver my life; save me for the sake of your steadfast love. For in death there is no remembrance of you; in Sheol who will give you praise?I am weary with my moaning; every night I flood my bed with tears; I drench my couch with my weeping. My eye wastes away because of grief; it grows weak because of all my foes. Depart from me, all you workers of evil, for the Lord has heard the sound of my weeping.
The Lord has heard my plea; the Lord accepts my prayer. 10 All my enemies shall be ashamed and greatly troubled; they shall turn back and be put to shame in a moment.

Message: A Prayer for Deliverance

Time: The psalms were written by many different people across a period of a thousand years in Israel's history. They are thought to have been compiled and put together in their present form by some unknown editor shortly after the captivity ended about 537 B.C.

What the Lord is Saying: 

I am not sure what exactly (nor are the commentators) the writer of this Psalm (probably David) is experiencing upon him voicing this prayer. But, he felt like it was important to write down and record. He was obviously feeling a deep sense of hurt. It may not been because of any sin in his own life for he does not mention any sin. 

O Lord, I am at a low point and while there are times when I need your correction and rebuke because of the sin in my life, I ask that you not correct me right now. This world I live in is corrupt and foul mouthed and disregards you over and over, in more ways than one. You deserve to give wrath and anger, but I ask you withhold it from me at this time. Be gracious to me O Lord for I am at a loss of spirit and vigor. Heal me, for my body aches. And my soul is greatly troubled. Lord, how long? How long must I stay in this state? How long do I stay in this condition? 

Turn me around. Deliver my life. Save me for the sake of your never-ending Love. You are a God who is to remembered and to be praised, but if I die I cannot do this, and I want to continue to do this. I don't want to wade through the waters of my own misery, but rather I want to turn my focus on You and remember all of the things you have done for me, praising You. 

My moaning continues. My bed is filled with my tears as I cry myself to sleep. My outlook on life is one of despair and grief. All I can see many times is my enemies or my foes. "Depart from me, all you evil ones, for the Lord hears me and hears me in my weeping. You work evil out, but God is near me." Thank you God for hearing me and thank you God for accepting my prayer. My my enemies be ashamed of their conduct. May the wicked fail in their schemes, immediately. May there ways be confused right now, so they don't continue in their wrath, but it stops, right now.

Promise: God is there in moments of feeling defeated.