James 1:5 - Talk to Your Husband about His Sin

James 1:5

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. (verse 5)

Message: Talk to Your Husband about His Sin

Time: Thought to be James, the half-brother of Jesus, though he was not a follower when Jesus was walking on the earth. He believed post-resurrection. He likely wrote this in AD 45-48. This is like the first New Testament book written and it was written to Jewish Christians. It is focused on practical application or how God's people are to "act" like God's people and this is a faith that produces life change. 

What the Lord is Saying: The author of this article mentions how he wife approached him, graciously, mentioning something that she had been praying about, namely communicating to her husband that he had not led in Bible Study or prayer. As a seminary student, he was crushed, realizing he was not leading his wife. 

My thought of reading this, not yet looking at what the author was going to say are some people I know where the wives are struggling in their marriages because their husbands are not doing any spiritual leading. I admit at times doing this with my wife and even my children, expecting that the church would take care of leading and guiding them or that she would get her spiritual nourishment herself and not realizing that it needs to come from me. And now I see other women dealing with this as well. These husbands do not oppose church or talking about spiritual matters, but they are not actively engaging in leading their wives or families and the wife meanwhile is off growing herself, seeking the Lord, studying God's word without the husband leading the wife. 

Roles in our society are in a disarray. Recently, I was challenged by my pastor to lead my wife in regular prayer. I have been doing it before work. Most of the time it is quick and sometimes it is not real deep or meaty. I need to improve upon that and not let a day go by without it happening. 

This is what his wife did.

1. She prayed about it before confronting. As the verse says in James 1:5, before doing what we would like in our heart to do, we must first "ask of God." Confrontation is not easy. I've had to do it a few times and I believe I have thought about it a lot, but not sure how often I really go to God and ask for his guidance. Often, I notice in my prayers only asking God to step in, but in these moments, the request is to direct me in how I should walk. 
2. She was willing to confront her husbands. It is tragic that often out of being confronted the other party is defensive and feels attacked. I admit that I fall into this as well when anyone asks me a question about why I did something, so it seems part of my need is to pray that if someone confronts me that I would be open to what they have to say. 
3. She was straightforward about the sin. Again, I tend to want things to be palpable and so I often beat around the bush in matters rather than simply being direct. Proverbs 24:26 says, "Whoever gives an honest answer kisses the lips." 
4. She set a precedent. She opened the door so that future confrontations, if necessary, could occur. Granted, it is a great that as her husband, he responded with tears and was broken. Unfortunately, the defensive responses can make confronting again difficult. 

Prayer: O God, thank you for the people in our lives and the Godly people you place in my life. If I have sinned and someone sees it and approaches me about it, help me to be receptive and not be defensive or seek to justify my actions. Thank you for my wife. Change me so that I am open to confrontation. Help wives that are struggling in this area to pray and be gracious if they do confront. Thank you for addressing all of our needs and wants O God. 

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Proverbs 10:19 - Better to be silent than speak

Proverbs 10:19

When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable,

But he who restrains his lips is wise. 

Message: Better to be silent than speak

Time: Proverbs records multiple individuals as its author with Solomon as the principal author. Solomon died in 931 BC though most think the book was likely in its final form sometime before the end of Hezekiah’s reign in 686 BC. It is a book that instructs people on the path of wisdom. It speaks to all of life and living our lives under the authority and direction of God. 

What the Lord is Saying: Wisdom and Transgression is the contrast today and the mouth and speaking are at the forefront of this proverb. The mouth has been mentioned thus far in verse 6, 8, 10, 11, 13, 14, an 18. It definitely will be a common theme I think in Proverbs. The mouth conceals violence, babbles, can be discerning, can be foolish, and spreads slander. There is much caution in how our mouths are used. Today, the concern is simply one who speaks many words. Perhaps with so many warnings about the danger of speaking, it follows that a person that speaks a lot could be more susceptible to problems with their mouth. Here, the transgression or sin or offense is unavoidable. Therefore, restrain your lips. That is interesting in itself because wisdom I think is seen and to be seen it must be voiced and to be voiced is to speak words. Yet, it is the one that does not speak that is showing wisdom. Better to not speak than to say something that might get you into trouble. 

Various translations - Vice

NIV - Sin is not ended by multiplying words

NLT - Too much talk leads to sin

ESV - When words are many, transgression is not lacking

CEV - You will say the wrong thing if you talk too much

Good News - The more you talk, the more likely you are to sin

Various translations - Virtue

NIV - the prudent hold their tongues

NLT - Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.

ESV - whoever restrains his lips is prudent

CEV - be sensible and watch what you say

Good News - If you are wise, you will keep quiet

Jesus says (Matthew 12:36), "And I say to you, that every careless word that men shall speak, they shall render account for it in the day of judgment."  

Matthew Henry comments that a person needs to check oneself. Perhaps that is what is needed at times, to think before one speaks. It is almost saying that given a choice between speaking and not speaking, it is more sensible to not speak at all. 

Ecclesiastes 5:3, "...the voice of a fool [comes] through many words." 

Prayer: God, at times I am more silent. I see this more often though in a company of prominent people and often when I do not have as much confidence in what I could say. In school, I remember often being cared to speak, thinking I might stumble, not ever wanting to be called upon, for fear that I would say the wrong thing. I know it is important to speak, but help me God to restrain my tongue and remember I don't have to speak. Sometimes it is better to not interject a word and let things fall as they will. I so regret all of the words I spoke with the children in the house while they were growing up. I wish my words would have been less. Help me to realize that is not only many words, but the wrong words that get spoken as well that result in problems. And it is not only my outward words which I need to check but my inner words. Thank you Jesus for dying on the cross and covering my sin of my many words. Heal those that have been hurt by them. Be glorified. In Christ I pray. Amen. 

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Proverbs 10:9 - Walk equals Talk

Proverbs 10:9 

He who walks in integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his ways will be found out. 

Message: Walk equals Talk

Time: Proverbs records multiple individuals as its author with Solomon as the principal author. Solomon died in 931 BC though most think the book was likely in its final form sometime before the end of Hezekiah’s reign in 686 BC. It is a book that instructs people on the path of wisdom. It speaks to all of life and living our lives under the authority and direction of God. 

What the Lord is Saying: It is always interesting to see the characteristics of vice and virtue that Solomon contrasts. In this Proverbs he extols integrity, walking in it and that walking produces a security or sureness. It is well grounded. In contrast the one that does not walk with integrity is the one who perverts their ways and that one will be found out or exposed. 

Integrity is a characteristic I hear much about. It is a trait that is commonly spoken of in the circles of men as well. But I suppose it is common for both sexes, but for some reason it feels like it stands out for men, but that could be because I am a man. The King James refers to this as "walking uprightly." 

A quick definition of integrity - "the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles." Being honest seems to be given as a virtue in life. It seems everyone agrees about the importance of this. In college, people often said, "let your walk equal your talk." What you say you are going to do, you need to do it. And in our speech it is important to always be truthful. As workers, I think this encompasses being dependable and a person that someone can count on. 

Beyond honest, it is having strong moral principles. I think this means a clear understanding of right and wrong. Morality is huge in our world as well. And yet it is defined in many different ways among people. How we are determining what is right and wrong in our world is changing, but mostly in the area of sexual relations and marriage. Whatever society deems as acceptable becomes morality it seems for people. Purity I think has been a big issue that has been assaulted, not highly as honored as people of faith honor it. A greater premium is placed now on experience and if that experience validates or makes a person feels good, then the standard is no longer a standard. And yet faithfulness is still extolled. So I think the issue of morality as it relates to integrity can be a challenge as we look at person to person. 

Charles Ellicott (1819-1905) in his commentary says that walking uprightly or security means, "He has no cause to fear lest anything to his discredit should come out." I like this. A person who walks with integrity has no fear of anything come to surface. In essence his life will be lived above reproach. The life is lived in a manner where the person really has no concern of being exposed later in life. I think of elections and it seems media or opponents are always trying to dig some dirt up on someone to discredit that person. Well, this is a proverb that says it won't happen because the life has been lived in such a way as there is no fear of that happening. 

But the vice or contrast in this verse says the opposite - "he who perverts his ways will be found out."  To walk in a perverse way is to walk in a crooked manner or a sinful path. This is a person that society hates in religious people - one that is a hypocrite. People not part of the church look at the hypocrite where a person's actions do not line up with their words. And the world hates this. The reality that the world does not understand is our works do no save us. We all are sinners and yet there is an expectation that the Christian, after conversion, will not live in any type of sin. High standards, yes. But I think we need to be more sensitive to this. When we have error, we need to admit and confess it before others. When we sin and we will, we need to confess it before God but also before man. This hurts the pride but our pride it not of importance. God receiving glory is that which is most important and we don't our actions to effect God receiving glory. 

Hence the antithesis of this verse is clear. Live your life with honesty and high moral standards of making right choices over wrong one's so that your life is an open book and there will be no fear of being exposed of any secret sins in the closet. Because this is the fear of the crooked person. The life they live that includes dishonesty and confusion over moral principles and practices other sins has a life that could be exposed. And that person through their actions lives in constant fear. 

Prayer: O God, I want to be this man of integrity - of honesty. Last night in a class I was involved in at church on marriage, we spoke about leaving a legacy. I pray and want my life of legacy to include being honest and right now, there is so much deception that my life is actually known for and I have that constant fear of being found out. Help me to clear out the dishonesty. And give me compassion to those that struggle in their lives to live in a manner that is holy and true. Help me to be a person of forgiveness and patience toward others, but I do thank for the high standard you ask us to hold to and I pray for your strength to live in this manner. Help my children as well. Right now, my oldest son is dealing with this and give him the strength to rise up from the exposure he has had of a sin. Help him to live his best life going forward. 

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My Utmost for His Highest - April 7th - Why Are We Not Told Plainly?

As they were coming down from the mountain, He gave them orders not to relate to anyone what they had seen, until the Son of Man rose from the dead. - Mark 9:9

     Say nothing until the Son of man is risen in you--until the life of the risen Christ so dominates you that you understand what the historic Christ taught. When you get to the right state on the inside, the word which Jesus has spoken is so plain that you are amazed you did not see it before. you could not understand it before, you were not in the place in disposition where it could be borne.

     Our Lord does not hide these things; they are unbearable until we get into a fit condition of spiritual life. "I have yet many things to say unto you, but ye cannot bear them now. (John 16:12)" There must communion with His risen life before a particular word can be borne by us. Do we know anything about the impartation of the risen life of Jesus? The evidence that we do is that His word is becoming interpretable to us. God cannot reveal anything to us if we have not His Spirit. An obstinate outlook will effectually hinder God from revealing anything to us. If we have made up our minds about a doctrine, the light of God will come no more to us on that line, we cannot get it. This obtuse stage will end immediately His resurrection life has its way with us.

     "Tell no man . . . " --so many do tell what they saw on the mount of transfiguration. They have had the vision and they testify to it, but the life does not tally with it, the Son of man is not yet risen in them. I wonder when He is going to be formed in you and in me?

Oswald Chambers - From My Utmost for His Highest Classic Edition

- Underlines and highlights are courtesy of Mom from her Print Edition,